If you are seriously committed to change, it could help to know that there are three predicable ways that people negatively react to you and pressure you to change back.

This Podcast quoted and referenced the work of Jerry Wise: https://www.jerrywiserelationshipsystems.com/about-me

This Podcast quoted and referenced the work of Murray Bowen: https://thebowencenter.org/theory/murray-bowen/