Colt Gordon Family Systems Podcast

Understanding Enmeshment Bowen Family Systems

After a thoughtful hiatus, our podcast resumes with a renewed spirit and focus! In this transformative episode, journey with me as I share a personal tale of music, vulnerability, and the dance between seeking validation and remaining authentic.

The ritual of burial. And the recent story of burying my father. Habits Choices and Rituals.

Part 2 of Episode 12. My brother Dane and I converse about his continual progress, updates, spirituality, hope, and a Las Vegas run. In our last episode, we got some comments that it left off at somewhat of a cliffhanger; thus, we hope that this fills in some of the gaps.

“Hello darkness my old friend…” A lot of people talk about safety these days, but when it comes to trauma, the way to heal is not with more safety – instead it is THROUGH. Through the trauma is where you make the progress.  This is the way.

Melanie and I had a wonderful conversation about owning your perspective, and the journey it requires to have a perspective in the first place.  Melanie spoke about her process of balancing being a lady and fully expressing herself in a way that works for her.

Family Strings Be Gone! Well, not really. Because family conditioning is kind of just stuck there, but you can get better and better at catching it. And then doing more well-defined behaviors one day at a time. If you don’t think in systems, the system has you. You are stuck in the matrix… Wake up (red pill).

Great discussion with Dylan Bain on societal enmeshment. We discuss the problem of society’s dogma and how that impacts our thought process. And most importantly how to become more self-differentiated in the current dogmatic political system.

In this solo podcast episode I talk about being in contact with the present moment and how that helps us become a more well defined self. Also, at about the 12 minute mark I did something a bit different, I facilitated a guided visualization/meditation exercise.

Discussion on Self-differentiation with Dane Gordon. Dane and I go back and forth on becoming more of a self by understanding the system one grows up in. We also talked about what to expect from others when you decide to change – its not exciting – but most people will adjust!

I was interviewed by Jonathan Bell. This was such a great time that we agreed to put it on my podcast as well.  My hope is to bring some traffic to Jonathan’s Podcast – The Curious Ulsterman.  Jonathan has a genuine curiosity to learn and promote ideas.

I used the wrong microphone. Nevertheless, I’m not going to over function and re-record. It is what it is, take it or leave it people 🙂

Nick Wescott shares his story of young sobriety. But sobriety did not mean healthy. Nick explained that finding a woman that pushed him to be better was a big part of his journey in getting healthier. Nick and Colt talk extensively on the process of becoming.

I recently tried out to be a lifeguard.

Nick has an amazing story of resiliency as he grew up with two absent alcoholic parents. At a young age he lost his father to alcoholism. And later he also lost his mother. Listening to Nick’s story inspired me a lot. I highly recommend this episode – humanity!

I’m talking about letting go of getting people to see things the way you see things. This not only helps with staying connected with others, but also with your Self. Focus on you to grow up.

This is my twentieth episode! I freestyled about dragons and finding fulfillment.

Jerry Wise is a self-differentiation and relationship systems coach. He uses his knowledge in family systems theory to help clients get un-stuck and find a true sense of Self.  He provides virtual professional coaching sessions to clients in the U.S. and all over the world.

Sarah is a Breathwork facilitator.
Sarah shares her transformative story of recovery, getting aligned with her values, and seeking validation within herself. Sarah once identified as an atheist, which is pretty funny as she is very spiritually inclined these days.

No matter what the behavior is, there is always a payoff (i.e., it serves us somehow) – but what does it cost you? Triggers|Behavior|Payoffs –> costs? Stumble towards the light.

Johnny Molano shares his story of overcoming mental health struggles and aligning himself with his authentic self. Johnny also speaks to how Brazilian Jiu Jitsu saved his life. The process is the way.

You need boundaries, damn it!

Everything is temporary. Clint shares his journey of overcoming abandonment. And how he has adopted his new philosophy in life that everything is temporary.

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My brother just got out of prison after serving six years. He talked about his journey of transformation. Laughter and tears! This episode may offend you.

Bill and Linda’s work can be found at https://www.enableism.com/

If you are seriously committed to change, it could help to know that there are three predicable ways that people negatively react to you and pressure you to change back.

What is a one-sided relationship and how do you stop them?

Leaving Neverland 2 of 12. Stop our illusions, naivety, and fantasy thinking and feeling. We believe we can change others (fantasy and naivety). We can’t. We believe we can make our parents be who we want them to be, or we will fantasize about it.

Have you done enough to create a healthy dynamic in your family? And are you continually getting mistreated? When is enough enough? Have you considered not going home for Christmas? Consider it.

Finding the true you? What the hell does this even mean? I am… Remember who you are.  Just Be.

Proceed with Just Half of an Idea. “The fool is the precursor to the savior.” “Anything worth doing is worth doing badly the first time,” when expanding as a person, it can help to be willing to be a fool, to be messy as you go. It is a zig zagging process. The knowing is in the doing. Going towards your edge is how you grow.

Leaving Neverland 1 of 12. Don’t do more than your part and stay connected.  Becoming a more defined Self, interestingly starts with not doing more than your part while also staying connected to others.  Learn to say no in the context of others.

When creating a healthier relationship with yourself, it can help to see your thoughts for what they really are.
1. Thought fusion = suffering.
2. Thoughts are powerful and automatic.
3. Defusion to create space for new behavior.

This was intended to be the podcast’s show promo; however, I allowed the Self to catch fire… This podcast’s goal is to help individuals see the is of improving the most vital relationship of all, their relationship with themselves.